When we lose someone we love, our world shifts. Life will never be the same without them, yet with time, we can begin to steady ourselves enough to take the next steps forward. Each of us grieves differently. Some retreat into solitude, others seek comfort in the presence of friends and family. However we mourn, one thing we all share is the need for support. I encourage seeking professional help, especially for those who hope to connect with loved ones who have passed away.
As we begin to heal, our energy changes. Little by little, the weight eases, and our vibration rises. In time, this can open the door for us to connect with the other side. This does not mean our sadness disappears, but the sharpness softens, allowing us to think and feel with more clarity. The journey is personal, and there is no single timeline that works for everyone.
The bond with the other side is not meant for entertainment. It is a gift meant to bring comfort, not to feed our egos or soothe every insecurity. The loved ones who reach out do so to help us heal. That is why it is so important to be willing to receive rather than to demand. Keep your heart open to signs, even the smallest ones. You may already be receiving them without realising it. Notice the repeating numbers, the unexpected visit of a bird, the sudden appearance of a song that reminds you of them. Do not brush these moments aside as chance. Instead, acknowledge them and express your gratitude. You might hear your name softly called when no one is there, or catch the familiar scent of their perfume. Let these moments simply be. Please resist the urge to explain them away; instead, meet them with openness and gratitude.
Many of us hope for what is called a visitation dream. These are not ordinary dreams. They are vivid, real, and leave a lasting mark on the heart. They may not happen often, but when they do, they can bring deep peace. You will know without question that the experience was genuine. If you long for such a dream, gently ask your loved one to visit. I did this every night for a week before my mother came to me in a dream that brought me comfort I had been longing for. That day, my wife noticed a lightness in me and told me I seemed more at peace.
When you reach out, speak to them, sing to them, laugh with them in your heart, and follow where your feelings lead. If nothing happens at first, do not lose hope. You have nothing to lose by trying. Please do not believe you are being ignored or that they have left you forever. Release dark thoughts and make space for the light. If there were things left unsaid or if you owe them an apology, speak the words aloud. They may matter more than you know.
If, after trying, you still feel no connection, pause and give yourself space. It may not be the right time. You can always try again in the future. Your loved one will never stop loving you or remembering you. There are mysteries beyond our understanding that guide when and how these connections happen. Even without signs or dreams, one thing is certain: their love is still with you, and it always will be.
