Some people carry a deep sense of guilt or remorse because they were not able to reconcile with someone before that person passed away. The regret can feel heavy, even overwhelming. No matter how hard they try, they struggle to release it. For some, these feelings remain for many years, and sometimes they stay with them until the very end of their lives.
During my sessions, I gently remind them that our loved ones on the other side are far less troubled by these matters than we are. As they continue their journey, they begin to see life with a wider and more compassionate perspective. What once seemed like serious conflicts or painful misunderstandings gradually fades. The other side is a place of healing, peace, and deeper understanding.
Almost everyone who has come through has shared a similar message. They hold no grudges and carry no bitterness. Instead, they see beyond the struggles of earthly life and recognise them as part of the human experience. Their wish is simple and loving. They want those they left behind to find peace in their hearts and to continue living fully.
Even with this reassurance, letting go can still be very difficult. Some wounds settle deeply within the soul and take time, patience, and grace to heal. In such moments, I encourage prayer, quiet reflection, and, when needed, the support of compassionate professionals who can help guide the healing process.
Often, it is easier for us to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves. Yet self-forgiveness is also possible. With time, faith, and kindness toward our own hearts, healing can come.
