A female client once asked me a profoundly moving question: would she be reunited with her abusive husband on the other side, or was there a way to avoid ever seeing him again? She had endured years of torment at his hands, staying in the marriage only for the sake of her children. She came from a part of the world where women’s rights are virtually nonexistent, and he had exploited this to his advantage.
I assured her that she would not be reunited with him unless she chose to be. Her free will would be honored.
“But what if I don’t want to see him, yet he tries to see me? Can he find me even if I don’t want him to?”
“If you don’t want to see him, he will never be able to see you or feel your presence. That can never happen without your consent especially considering the history you share.”
“I hope I never have to see him again.”
“The only possible reason you might encounter him is if he experiences genuine remorse and seeks to apologize. Even then, you would be given choices, and your decision would be fully respected.”
“Even if I choose not to accept his apology?”
“Absolutely. That is your right. The other side understands that, in life, your husband controlled your experience. In the afterlife, the balance shifts and you would be given priority. That said, there may come a time when you feel ready to let go. Forgiveness can be liberating, but it must come on your terms and yours alone.”
Over the years, I have met many clients with extraordinary souls and deeply compassionate hearts. Hearing their stories often breaks mine. Yet, amidst the pain, there is something profoundly reassuring: the quiet reminder that the world is still filled with good people. I am humbled.
