Not everyone from the other side is always welcome. There have been times when I conveyed to a client that someone from the other side was coming through for them. The client would acknowledge who it was, but then tell me they did not wish to hear from that person or engage with them in any way.
These moments can be awkward for everyone involved. I explain to clients that there is usually a purpose behind someone reaching out from the other side. Perhaps they are seeking forgiveness. They may need to clarify something or communicate something important. I give clients time to think it through, hoping they will reconsider and agree to listen. We should not disregard the effort it takes for someone to come through to us.
Some clients begin to understand this and decide to proceed with remarkable humility. They may even end up forgiving the person who came through for them. I have worked with individuals whose capacity for grace has humbled me. Despite their pain and years of hardship, they manage to find forgiveness within themselves. I am deeply moved when a positive breakthrough occurs, and I feel fulfilled knowing I played a small part in making it possible.
Of course, there are cases where forgiveness feels impossible. Although I must remain neutral, I sympathise with my clients. Some wounds cannot be easily dismissed. In those moments, I can only hope that healing will come, for all involved, on the other side.
