How do our loved ones who have passed feel about the earthly material possessions they left behind? Do they care whether we keep them or dispose of them? If we choose to do so, would they mind if we sold them, gave them to charity, or simply threw them away?
Many people prefer to keep something, if not everything. Some not only retain items left behind but may even preserve a loved one’s bedroom intact. This is not necessarily done in the hope of their return, but rather to honour their memory and maintain a sense of connection. Through years of experience as a reader, I can say that there is no right or wrong approach. We are free to do whatever brings us comfort and healing. What may seem insignificant to others may, in fact, be a treasured reminder for us. Memories of our loved ones remain precious and enduring.
So what about those who have transitioned to the other side? How do they feel about the material possessions they left behind? Do they have preferences?
From this perspective, they are less connected to the material world. Physical possessions tend to lose their significance as they no longer serve the same needs they once did. However, the answer can vary from one individual to another. More important than the objects themselves are our attitudes, intentions, and feelings toward them. There is a meaningful difference between donating items to those in need and discarding them with indifference or resentment. It is our intention that carries weight.
Of course, if explicit instructions were left behind, these should be honoured out of respect and appreciation. However, there may be times when circumstances are difficult, and financial need requires us to part with inherited items, even if doing so feels uncomfortable or goes against a loved one’s wishes. In such situations, one should not hesitate to do what is necessary to ensure personal well-being and survival. After all, this is what our loved ones would want for us.
