When someone dear to us passes away, the weight of grief can feel unbearable. But what, exactly, are we grieving? Often, it’s not just one thing — it’s a complicated web of emotions, thoughts, regrets, and uncertainties. Let’s explore some of the deep undercurrents that shape our sorrow.
- We mourn their absence.
At the simplest level, we are sad because they are gone. Their laughter, their voice, their presence — the daily or occasional interactions that anchored them in our lives — are suddenly no longer accessible. We long for them. We miss their companionship, their advice, their unique personality that added color to our world. - We grieve the change in our own world.
Their absence doesn’t just leave a hole; it changes the entire landscape of our lives. Perhaps they were the person we called every evening, the one who always remembered our birthday, the person who supported us through difficult times. Without them, our world is forever altered. Even if we eventually rebuild, we carry the knowledge that life will never be quite the same. - We struggle with unfinished goodbyes.
When death comes unexpectedly, we may feel robbed of the chance to say goodbye, to express love, gratitude, or even unresolved frustrations. There’s a deep human need for closure — to know that nothing was left unsaid. When that’s missing, we are left haunted by the “what ifs.” - We carry the burden of unresolved issues.
Perhaps there were arguments never settled, apologies never given, or truths never spoken. These unfinished emotional threads can make grief feel even heavier, tinged with guilt or regret. - We feel guilty about the time we didn’t spend.
Modern life is busy, and we often assume we’ll have more time — another visit, another phone call, another chance. When a loved one dies, we may be tormented by memories of invitations declined, visits postponed, or moments we were too distracted to appreciate. - We experience loneliness and fear.
Sometimes, we lose not just a loved one but also a source of emotional or even practical support. Perhaps they were the one who always checked in on us, encouraged us, or simply made us feel safe. Without them, the world can suddenly seem colder, scarier, and lonelier. - We wrestle with existential uncertainty.
One of the deepest and most troubling aspects of grief is the question: Are they truly gone forever? Will we ever see them again? What happens to the soul, to the essence of who they were? These questions can bring overwhelming feelings of loss, fear, or even panic.
It is this last point — the painful uncertainty about what lies beyond — that often weighs heaviest on the grieving heart. When we face the unknown, we can feel untethered, suffocated by doubt, desperate for reassurance.
This is where I may be able to help you. As an experienced and intuitive reader with over 40 years of practice, I have walked alongside many who are navigating the stormy waters of loss. Through intuitive guidance, compassionate listening, and deep spiritual insight, I can help bring clarity, comfort, and perhaps even connection where you need it most.
If you are struggling with the ache of loss, feeling overwhelmed by questions you cannot answer alone, know that you don’t have to face it in isolation. Together, we can explore your grief, honor your loved one’s memory, and gently open the door to healing.
